#WednesdayWisdom - Presence.
Here's a bit of #WednesdayWisdom :)
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Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy
As a Communication Studies major, I grew a strong interest in studying nonverbal behaviors and understanding what it really means to be "present."
In Presence, Cuddy touches on how body language really influences how we see ourselves and others. We all interpret "presence" differently, so I was especially interested to read Cuddy's definition, as well as other interpretations of what it means to be present.
If you've been doubting yourself and/or are eager to work on your self confidence or just want to learn how to live in the moment, I’d recommend giving this book a read.
“When you are not present, people can tell. When you are, people respond.”
“‘Presence is removing judgment, walls, and masks so as to create a true and deep connection with people or experiences.’ – Pam, Washington State, USA”
“‘Presence is loving people around you and enjoying what you do for them.’ –Anonymous, Croatia”
“‘Presence is being myself and keeping condiment, whatever happens.’ –Abdelghani, Morocco”
“Presence emerges when we feel personally powerful, which allows us to be acutely attuned to our most sincere selves.”
“Let me say clearly: presence has nothing to do with extroversion. Not only are introverts every bit as likely as extroverts to demonstrate resonant presence, but research conducted in the last decade has also overwhelmingly shown us that introverts tend to have qualities that very effectively facilitate leadership and entrepreneurship, such as the capacity to focus for long periods of time; a greater resistance to the kinds of decision-making biases that can doom entire organizations; less need for external validation of their self-concepts; and stronger listening, observing, and synthesizing skills”
“The takeaway is this: focus less on the impression you’re making on others and more on the impression you’re making on yourself.”
“In essence, self-affirmation is the practice of clarifying your story to yourself, allowing you to trust that who you are will come through naturally in what you say and do.”
“By finding, believing, expressing, and then engaging our authentic best selves, especially if we do it right before our biggest challenges, we reduce our anxiety about social rejection and increases our openness to others. And that allows us to be fully present.”
“The lesson is that trust is the conduit of influence, and the only way to establish real trust is by being present. Presence is the medium through which trust develops and ideas travel.”
“Revealing your true self frees others to reveal theirs. We have to stop being silk.”
“'When you listen to someone it’s the most profound act of human respect.' – William Ury"
“Presence is not about winning. It cannot be motivated by desire for a certain outcome—although the outcome is likely to be better when you are present. It’s about approaching your biggest challenges without dread, executing them without anxiety and leaving them without regret.”